Senior Living in MA

Senior Living considerations for the adult child of elderly parents.

  • Jul 3

    Are your elderly loved ones technophobes, or technologically timid? Have they eschewed the computer as something for your generation, and not theirs? If so, your family is not unique in that regard. That’s a very common phenomenon. Knowing it’s common doesn’t alleviate the frustration of trying to keep in touch with parents whether they live in their own homes or in assisted living communities.

    Many of us who fall into the category of “adult children” of seniors practically live on email and other “messaging” systems like texting, Facebook, and other social networking sites. Our corporate work environments hold email in nearly the same regard as our elderly mom or dad would a notarized document. Tradesmen and women rely on email to schedule jobs for their small businesses, and on the web in general to find new customers. Often, we’d love to touch base with our elderly family in between meetings or service calls, but can’t spare the time to give even a brief conversation the full attention it deserves–an unfortunate reality of our over-booked, over-scheduled, micro-managed world.

    Sending a quick email has become our defacto replacement of the old postcard, only thousands of times more convenient.

    The convenience doesn’t matter a bit if your intended recipient doesn’t use a computer. Buying a computer for an elderly parent who resists the idea doesn’t make a lot of sense to most people, either. Email options for people who don’t own their own computer then become limited to the free accounts available on advertising-supported sites such as Yahoo, Gmail and AOL.

    Teaching Mom or Dad to Use Email

    Do you have the patience to teach your elderly mom or dad about accessing an email account on an Internet-based service laden with advertising and spam? If they don’t own a computer, how often is it that they would get to the public library to log in? Chances are that many of your lessons would be forgotten due to lack of practice, and understandably so.

    However, if your mom or dad has moved into a particular assisted living community in Danvers, Massachusetts that provides Connected Living to its residents, they would be able to use a messaging system that was created for senior citizens. It’s an invitation-only system that requires that you be invited by the senior. This means no spammer can find their “email” address, yet you would be able to send them notes and pictures of the grandchildren with the convenience you’re used to.

    Even if your mom or dad don’t own a computer, this community has put in a computer “lab” exclusively for their residents. If you doubt your mom or dad’s ability to grasp the concepts behind the messaging system, there’s no reason to worry. The Connected Living service in this Danvers community provides several hours per month of “Ambassador” services. Connected Living Ambassadors personally help seniors log in to and use the messaging system.

    The transition between living at home and when elderly family members move to retirement communities involves plenty of new challenges. Communicating with your elderly family member shouldn’t be one of them.

    So if you are considering an assisted living community in Massachusetts, and live near Danvers, be sure to ask if they offer Connected Living to their residents.